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Try as you might, you simply can’t protect your child from peer pressure altogether. Every child will experience it at some point on their journey to adulthood, and the drive to fit in can be a powerful motivator for some less than desirable behaviour. What you can do is prepare them to deal with peer pressure in a more sensible and mature way. For some tips on how to go about this, take a look at the following from an independent school in Surrey.
Having a discussion about the things your child would and wouldn’t be comfortable doing is a good way to help them establish some boundaries. If they have a clear idea in mind of behaviour they would not want to participate in, they are more likely to stick to their guns when faced with peer pressure.
Talk about some of the things that they might be pressured into doing, such as skipping school, smoking or picking on other kids.
Ask them how they would feel if these situations arose and the consequences of these actions. If your child is familiar with the concept of peer pressure and how it might present itself, they will be better prepared to deal with it when it arises and are less likely to be negatively influenced.
Once they’re comfortable with their boundaries you can practice strategies for enforcing them, such as how to say ‘no’ without being confrontational and how to use humour as a deflection. In an ideal world, all children would have the confidence to stand up for what they believe in and declare their moral outrage when faced with negative peer pressure, but that’s not really realistic.
It takes a lot of courage to go against the grain, even just a little, so finding ways to deal with peer pressure amicably is probably the most effective method. Sometimes just making up an excuse and removing themselves from the situation can be the best bet as they won’t feel pressure to explain themselves to their peers. If this isn’t possible, just assertively saying ‘no thanks, I don’t want to do that shows confidence and sets clear boundaries.